Cuckolds and Chastity

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Cuckolds and male chastity.

Nothing is more effective than putting a chastity belt around a cuckolds dick. It gives the woman, cuckoldress or hotwife total control over every situation. The cuckolded husband will feel all the time who owns him and decides everything. When the cuckold male cannot touch his chastised dick and has to wait for his hot wife to decide when to allow him to masturbate, he will do anything not to annoy her. If she makes a rule to extend the time for his release for every time he makes a mistake, fails to serve her well enough or does not obey her, he will do anything to be a perfect slave.

She will have so much funwith chastity, especially when telling him or showing him how she gives pleasure to her lover. Making him see how a real cock is sucked, is probably the best lesson for a chastised small dick.

CHASTITY REINFORCEMENT

The longer a cuckolded man goes without orgasm, the greater lengths he will go to in order to achieve one. In other words, a teased man will do whatever his Hot wife wishes. Conversely, once a man climaxes, he is not thinking about sex any longer. The needs of his Woman are ignored. Thus, the orgasm must be harnessed -- figuratively and literally. Denial of orgasm should be used as punishment, fulfilment of orgasm as reward. There are many methods to doing this, some more extreme than others, but here are some inviolable ground rules: The husband should never under any circumstances masturbate, unless instructed to do so by his Wife .The husband should never be permitted to release unless the Wife has already done so. The Wife should never perform oral sex on the husband. If the husband desire she should be made to find a man to sate this base desire. fellatio, Sexual intercourse implies by its very nature equity--the putting together of complementary parts. Because the husband should never be made to feel equal to the Wife, intercourse should be eschewed for cunnilingus and strap-on sex. Should the Wife nevertheless desire intercourse, the husband should never be permitted to orgasm. On those rare occasions when a husband is allowed sexual release, he should do so by one of three means: 1) rubbing against a hard surface, such as the bed; 2) manual masturbation by his own hands; 3) through some undesired act of homosexuality. Sexual release should be used as a reward, but should also be a punishable offense. Semen should be disposed of in a way that humiliates the husband (i.e., oral consumption). The Wife should not touch the husband below the belt if at all possible. There are many methods to keeping the husband in line. The most extreme way to control the husband's orgasm is through the use of chastity control devices.

1) Provides peace of mind to the woman (Keyholder) that her partner won't (be tempted to) stray, as in the sense of having an affair;

2) Provides assurance to the woman that the male won't indulge in "self abuse", which she may either find distasteful or offensive in its own right, or which she finds (or at least fears) would reduce his motivation or performance level in meeting her needs.

3) Is simply a fantasy of the wearer and she goes along to support his interest, even though she sees no particular benefit in it;

4) Is a tool for addressing significantly different libidos within a relationship. For example, perhaps she is just not interested in having sexual activity as frequently as he might like it, and the use of a cb is one way (particularly if he already has an interest in cb's) of making sure she is not "hassled" by unwanted advances.

5) Provides a tool to "encourage" the male to pay more attention to her sexual needs and improve his performance and technique in this area.

6) She finds the power transfer and control resulting from her holding of the key to be a real "turn on", sexually and otherwise.

7) Encourages the male to be more submissive, obedient and "trainable", not only in terms of pleasing her sexually, but in areas outside the bedroom as well.

Are you ready to change your relationship and your life!!

Remember when you were first dating and all his attention was on you? He couldn't seem to cuddle you enough, caress you enough and the whole time making it seem like sex was the last thing on his mind. He was so romantic! Silly girl, that was the most important thing on his mind! He could hardly wait to score. The male ego is to go along with any part of the program to get the final results..satisfying him sexually!!

The next step is to find satisfaction in all different types of sexual activities. The more the woman is willing to participate in his fantasy world, the happier he is. Women tend to want to Keep Her Man Happy and often crave for his acknowledgement of sexual satisfaction. This gives her the feeling of security. False security is normally the case!

Women, how long did it take you to see your man change? Was it weeks, months or were you fortunate enough to not see it for a year? Once the daily routine starts, was he not as cuddly, caring, or romantic? Did he seem to start focusing more on his job, friends and hobbies more? The age old complaint is that He Doesn't Talk To Me Anymore. Did this leave you with a feeling of loneliness? This is usually where the woman starts having self-doubt. Am I not as attractive? Am I gaining weight? Hello...have you even thought for one moment that you haven't necessarily changed. Quit feeling guilty. If women could get paid a salary for guilt, there would be a lot of very wealthy women!

Women, are you really aware of how much the man masturbates? Whether the couple admits it or not both are doing it while waiting for the other to fulfill them sexually. That little thing called testosterone makes it where he can't seem to help himself, or shall we say, He does help himself! Often, you are not the one to blame. Conquering something or someone is just in his nature. Once he has accomplished the task of conquering he sometimes looses interest (and not necessarily love) and is on the alert for a new challenge. In the meantime, he finds it very satisfying to go into a fantasy world and take care of his own needs. Have you every wondered why some times he can shower in three minutes and other times it takes ten to fifteen minutes:..I don't think he is shaving his legs.

When communication ceases between a couple this can only lead to trouble. She craves the one on one attention and is a perfect candidate for a smooth talking companion. Someone that can again tell her how special she is, how beautiful and above all desirable. She doesn't necessarily find this man more attractive than her current partner- - - just more fulfilling of her feminine needs! After all, he doesn't ignore her, always has time to chat, does all the special little things that her current partner use to in the beginning of their relationship. Wake Up!! If you choose to end the current relationship for the new one, the vicious cycle would again raise its ugly little head and you can start this whole process again.

NOW YOU CAN

Control your mans orgasms. This is an extremely powerful and effective relationship device. Become his fantasy once again. He will think you are the sexiest thing in this world. Wearing the chastity device can be extremely erotic. You know the couple has to think of each other constantly since he is wearing the device and she is holding the key...things will never be the same...they will be much better! After he has been in it for a short period of time, he will again start kissing, caressing, and basically be completely turned on by you. He will worship the ground you walk on. Men love power and knowing you have exchanged this power will bring him to his knees.The first thing this would accomplish is to take away his ability to take matter into his own hands through masturbation. He can no longer touch his penis.

His outlook on your relationship will take on a whole new meaning...you will again become his focus!

He can go to his favorite pub for a brew with the boys and still have everything intact the same as when he left.

Fear of sex with someone else will no longer even be a concern.His home will be on the top of his priority list. You will find him helping with the chores.You want a massage or foot rub it is yours!Does he need to go away on a business trip? Kiss him goodbye at the airport knowing that he is locked up safe and secure and wish him a fun, successful trip. The belt can be worn while flying since it is completely made of plastic and he won't find himself undressing at the Security Gate to explain what is in his pants!

Kiss him passionately, tease him, deny his sexual pleasure as long as possible. The results of this denial will be extraordinary.

The bedroom will become your playground. Become like teenagers again exploring each others sexual pleasures.

Put the flame back into your relationship with little surprises; i.e., special lingerie, candle light bubble baths, nude dinners...use your imagination!

Took off Male Chastity: The Woman’s Pictorial Guide to a Blissful Relationship

Author: Dr. Tanya Larisse

Girlfriends of mine have long been envious of my wonderful husband, Ron. Never have they seen such a well-mannered, sensitive and caring man. What they don’t realize is that their own boyfriends or husbands could be turned into the same. I’ve written this primer on male chastity to give all you ladies out there the opportunity to turn your toad into the prince you’ve been dreaming about.

Step 1: Purchase

This is often the most difficult step. Your goal is to convince your man to purchase and wear a chastity device. Explain to him that doing so would make your relationship stronger, happier, more fun, and intimate. It’s not that you don’t trust him, but you’d feel very special being the one and only one that has control of his sex. Reassure him that by making you his key holder, he’s taking a step towards long term happiness for you both. The Internet is the best source for chastity devices. Seek one out online and order it together.

Step 2: The Arrival

Ensure the device contains all pieces (refer to accompanying instructions). Practice locking and unlocking the device until you’re comfortable doing so. Have your man affix the chastity device to his genitals in the manner prescribed. If it’s placed on correctly, the device should be comfortable, allow for urination, yet restrict his erections and not allow him any direct contact with his penis.

Step 3: The Locking

Ask that he allow you to lock the chastity device in place. Most devices are locked with a simple padlock. Simply affix it as directed in the instructions and snap it shut.

Congratulations! With the closing of the lock, your relationship has taken a great leap.

Step 4: Changes

Having a chastity device locked around his genitals usually means some simple physical changes for your man. First, he’ll likely have to sit while urinating. Secondly, he’ll have to get used to sleeping on his back or sides as sleeping on his stomach may be uncomfortable. Neither of these are very severe and he should be adapted within days.

Step 5: Accepting Your New Role

By holding the keys to your man’s chastity device, you now have the power to ensure he remains loving, loyal, and respectful to you always.

Women throughout history have long known that most men are driven almost entirely by their penises. Because of this fact, men can be very charming, caring, and considerate to a woman in order to gain her assistance in achieving an orgasm. Once the orgasm has occurred, however, men tend to put those wonderful qualities on the backburner until the urge for sexual relief comes back. What’s more, if you refuse to assist him in achieving that relief, he’ll resort to masturbating and take care of the problem on his own.

Do you see the power of those keys now? As long as you hold them, your man’s days of masturbating are over. Furthermore, you now have the power to limit his orgasms, providing them sparingly, only when he has earned the privilege by pleasing you. You’ve become the sole proprietor of his manhood and, as such, have paved the way to making him the man you’ve always wanted.

When he looks at you now, he not only sees his girlfriend or wife, but also the only person capable of providing him with sexual relief. You, the woman, have complete control of your man’s sex – this is the way it should be. In no time flat, you’ll find him getting very huggy and kissy, buying you gifts, and offering to take you to dinner or give you a long and wonderful massage after a long day at work. Sound nice? It is.

Step 6: Establishing the Rules

The first thing you’ll need to do is decide on a schedule for his relief. For men new to chastity, I recommend you begin with a weekly schedule. This doesn’t mean that once a week, every week, he’ll be let out of the chastity device for some action. It means that if, during that week, he’s made you happy, he’ll be given a release. If not, his wait will be extended for a period that you determine. Very quickly, he’ll learn that if you’re unhappy with him, a lack of sexual release for him will be the consequence. What’s more, as he’s only given the opportunity to have one orgasm per week at best, he’ll appreciate them so much more. Soon he’ll understand the importance of always making you happy and equate your happiness with his own.

Another important rule you’ll want to establish is that he will no longer be allowed to play with himself – at all. You and only you will have the power to fondle, caress, or stroke his manhood. In doing so, you reinforce your autonomy as the sole provider of his sexual pleasure. If he wishes to be let out of the device for any reason, allow it, with the stipulation that his hands be tied behind him with a scarf, rope, or pair of handcuffs.

When the time comes for his release, allow it in a manner you choose. If that means a passionate bout of love making, so be it. If it means you giving him oral sex or a hand job, those work too. Once he’s had his orgasm, place him back in the device immediately.

Step 7: The Chores

Be assertive in having him help with the housework. Very soon it could be you laying on the couch and watching TV while he does the dishes as opposed to the all to common reversal of those activities.

This isn’t a license to abuse your power. By all means, you should also share in those chores. However, you’ll likely find that he’ll be offering, on his own accord, to do just about all of them.

Step 8: Your Sexual Pleasure

Just because he’s prevented from achieving sexual relief doesn’t mean that you are! This it he perfect opportunity for him to perfect his tongue technique. Multiple times daily if you wish it! He’ll be very happy to do so as keeping you happy sexually will not only feel like an accomplishment for him, but also serve to ensure his own sexual relief when the time comes.

Last but not least, have fun with it! Don’t be afraid to put on the goddess routine. Make him ask politely to be allowed to give you oral sex, or a massage, or that foot rub. Tease him. The voracious sexual energy you’ll generate in him by doing so can be channeled into pleasing you. Use your imagination.

Soon, you’ll grow to adore keeping your man in a chastity device and wonder why you didn’t do it right from day one. Your man will grow to adore you like he’s never adored any woman before.

Frequently Asked Questions

"I'd like to give the chastity thing a try with my boyfriend. Can you recommend a good chastity belt?"

- Miranda, California, USA, Age 22

There are two main types of chastity devices for men: the belt variety (Tollyboy, Access Denied, etc.) and the cage variety (CB-2000, Birdcage, etc). Because of their lower cost, general ease of you, and comfort, I generally recommend one of the cage varieties to couple wanting to begin incorporating male chastity into their relationship. The CB-2000 is hard to beat as it is generally just as secure as a belt variety chastity

device. I've also had my fiance invest in a Tollyboy variety belt. We use the CB-2000 for the most part, but I do like the way he looks in Tolly boy metal underwear. ;-)

Check out www.altairboy.com. It's a great site that contains reviews of all major brands of male chastity device. Pick one that you both like.

"I bought a CB-2000 for my guy two weeks ago. I've already noticed positive changes in his attitude. :) My question is, how should I give him his weekly release? Is there a special way?

- Freija, Chicago, Illinois, Age 29

In short, there is no special way to achieve this. You can have sexual intercourse with him, you can give him oral sex, or you can bring him to ejaculation with your hand. If he's behaved very well, bring him to orgasm in the way he likes best. If there are black marks on his record that week, do it in what way you enjoy most. There are, however, three things you should keep in mind:

a) Don't allow him access to his penis with his hands. If you plan on teasing for awhile, or leaving him

unattanded for even a few seconds, tie his hands. If you are there to supervise, explain to him that if he touches himself, you'll tie his hands. We want you to be the only one with the power to pleasure his penis.

b) It's best to leave him locked up until you're ready to give him the orgasm. He doesn't need to be freed to get worked up.

c) Replace the chastity device immediately after giving him an orgasm.

"My wife really wants to keep me locked in a chastity belt. So a couple of months ago, after making all

the proper measurements, we ordered a Goethal male belt. For the first couple of days, everything was alright. After that, I began to experience various pains as the belt began to aggravate/rub my skin in various places and some chafing occurred. I'm open to the idea of wearing a chastity belt, but this experience has made it lose some of its attractiveness. Can you suggest anything?"

- Gregg, Location Unknown, Age Unknown

Belt varieties of male chastity devices often require much 'twinking' to get them to feel comfortable for long term use. Consult with the manufacturer of the belt and seek their advice. Also, check out www.altairboy.com as it contains many forums on how to correct such problems.

If you're still unable to find a solution, consider investing in a cage variety chastity device.

"I've tried to get my girlfriend interested in keeping me locked up. Everytime I bring up the subject she shys away. She tells me she thinks its too weird and doesn't want to do it. Help!"

- Stephen, Sydney, Australia, Age 24

First of all, don't force the issue with her, it'll just make her feel more uncomfortable. She feels this way because she hasn't been exposed to the idea before and thinks it to be and odd and weird request from you. What can you do? Gently encourage her to read this guide. Also, show her some of the variety of male chastity resources on the net. Once she sees just how many thousands of couples are using male chastity devices as a way to enhance their relationships, she might change her mind. Explain to her that she has nothing to lose by giving it a try and ask if she would be willing to try for a trial period (one month might be a good duration).

A recent article in the New York Times (March 4 , 2000 edition - see website) stated that male chastity device sales have shot up dramatically over the last two years. In 1999, an estimated half million male chastity devices were sold. Clearly, the idea is catching on.

Good luck!

"I bought my boyfriend a CB-2000 for his birthday two months ago. So far, we both love using it (me more than him I think .. hehe)! What I am still unsure about is in what behaviour I should feel justified in punishing by increasing his wait. He says its very challenging for him to wait an entire week for an orgasm. I don't want to make it tougher for him than I have to and he has gotten so much more responsive and caring towards me since we started using it. But he really makes me mad sometimes when he 'forgets' to call me, or spends his time playing computer games instead of with me. What do you think?

- Tina, Toronto, Ontario, Age 26

Well, Tina, throw any guilt you're feeling out the door! :-) As your man's keyholder, you have every right to use your authority to curb the behaviours in him that make you unhappy. Just a few extra days added to his wait will have a huge impact on him - he'll learn that although he can forget phone calls and spend free time playing computer games when you feel neglected, they'll come at a cost. Let his penis argue with him and you'll soon find those behaviours coming to an end.

When he's behaving improperly, approach him with something like this:

"I'm not happy with the fact that you didn't call me when you said you would. I've decided to make you wait an extra two days for every missed phone call. I really like to talk to you on the phone ... do you think you can be more dependable in returning calls?"

or

"You know how much I like spending time with you. And I'm getting a little bit irritated at all the time you spend playing computer games when you could be with me. I'd appreciate it if you could limit your playing time to one day a week. I'm going to have you wait an extra week without being unlocked for every day more than one that you play games when you could be spending time with me. Can you do this for me?"

If he's at all resistant to accepting your decisions, tell him that although you'll be very disappointed, you will give him the keys to his belt and not accept them back for good.

He'll come around. ;-)

"Hi Tanya! Thank you ever so much for introducing my fiance and I to this wonderful relationship tool! My man has never been so loving and caring and I've never been so sexually satisfied. I get more oral sex in a day than many women do in a month and I've even taught him how exactly to use a dildo on me. :) And he seems to love it just as much as I do. He says his orgasms are so much better after having to wait for them and having to earn them and he says it drives him insane with frustration (which he loves) that I don't let him touch his own penis. One thing I have noticed, though, is that his behaviour kind of hits bottom again for the first few days after I give him an orgasm. What I'd like to try is to increase his wait to more than a week. How long is too long?"

-Mindy, Location Unknown, Age 28

Good idea, Mindy. :-)

The best way to determine the answer to this is by trial and error. The trick is to increase his wait time slowly. Make it ten days. If he asks why, simply explain to him that you love the way he behaves under lock and key and want to maximize your happiness. Do this for a couple of months, then increase it to two weeks. See how this goes and continue to increase it as long as he doesn't start getting snappy or irritable with it. Over the last three years, I've worked my fiance up to a three week schedule (though I still occasionally unlock him after two weeks if his behaviour has been exemplary). I've also heard from many ladies that have their men on monthly (or longer) schedules. Really, the only upper limit is what you find works best.

"I've been keeping my boyfriend in a CB-2000 for a little over a year now. Everything has gone great with it to date. I take off the CB once a week and he's ready for a good time. Two days ago, I caught him surfing pornographic websites on the net. This is after I've told him repeatedly that I didn't want him looking at porn. I told him that I would make him wait a month from that day for his next orgasm. He says that making him wait that long could cause damage to his testicles or prostrate. Is this true?"

- Debbie, England, Age 20

No, Debbie, this is not true. The male's body has its own way of dealing with an over abundance of stored up semen. After a certain point, the male will experience a wet dream which will alleviate any build up and keep his ejaculatory system functioning properly. Keep to your pledge of making him wait a month. I doubt you'll find him surfing porn again. :-)

"My girlfriend agreed to give chastity for me a try in our relationship about two months ago. The problem is, she show's little interest in regulating my orgasms. She pretty much lets me out whenever I ask it and lets me do what I like while I'm out. I very much want her to control this aspect of me and make me a better boyfriend for her. What should I do?"

- Ivan, Vancouver, BC, Age 25

I would suggest that you help her realize the impact that keeping you on a schedule has. Go a full week without asking her for release. Near the end of the week, make extra effort to coddle her - treat her like a princess. Keep this up until she recognizes the pattern and decides that it'll make both of you happier if she's more restrictive about your releases. Good luck!

"Hi Tanya. I'm really excited about the idea of keeping my boyfriend in a chastity belt. The problem is, I don't want to hurt his feelings by suggesting that I want him kept in one. He's already more kind, sweet, caring, and attentive than any other guy I've been with. How can I convince him to try it without making him feel like he needs to improve?"

- Lisa, Location Unknown, Age Unknown

Here's what I would do, Lisa. Talk to him about the benefits of chastity. Tell him that you love the way he treats you and don't want it to ever change so you'd like to try keeping him locked. Make it seem fun and exciting. If he is indeed the sweet man you've described, he'll have no trouble giving it a try.

"I've been holding the keys to my fiance's CB-2000 for six months now. For the most part, I love it .. it's turned him into a regular Romeo. The problem is, once in awhile, after I've gotten him very excited and not allowed him release, he'll make a comment like "it's pretty selfish of you to get all that pleasure and give me any" or "why should you get to cum so many times and me so little". I'm pretty sure he's just trying to guilt me into giving him early release, but it still makes me feel kind of selfish, you know? What do you think?"

- Tara, Ohio, Age 26

Don't feel selfish at all, Tara. Look at it this way. You can continue to be happy with your 'Romeo' and, in turn, be a solid, supportive, loving mate in return - making him happy for the long term. Or, you can give in to your man's boyish need for the short term comfort of his orgasm and lose all the benefits that his chastity has brought you. Which is better for you? Obviously, keeping your Romeo. Which is better for him? Short term relief? Or long term happiness? You've given him the greatest gift a woman could give a man - you've ensured that he'll keep you happy and in doing so, guaranteed a long, happy relationship.

What to do about the comments? Say something like this, and speak firmly but sympathetically: "I'm sorry you feel that way, honey. You've made me so happy while I've kept you locked up. I know how guys can get and I don't ever want to risk that you could get that way. I'm so proud of you - you've been doing so well. But, if it will make you happy, you no longer have to lick me or play with me."

Chances are, he'll melt right there and apologize for saying what he did. :-)

If the comments resurface again after that, explain to him that you've already talked to him about it and are prepared to start giving him extra days without relief for saying such hurtful things.

"I'm being torn here. I love keeping my Tony in a chastity belt. But I also love penetrative sex! It feels like I'm keeping myself chaste by keeping him chaste! What should I do?"

- Sally, Venice, Italy, Age 30

Most women will admit that a properly used dildo/vibrator is better than the real deal. This is the perfect opportunity for you to teach him precisely how to please you using one. If it's the action of sexual intercourse itself that you love, buy Tony a strap-on dildo to use on you. :-)

Have you taught him to properly bring you to orgasms with his tongue? If not, you can give that a try too. Good luck!

"I've been keeping my boyfriend's penis under lock and key for 2 months. I must admit, I love it! And despite the misgivings I had about it actually pissing him off, he's expressed to me that he likes it too. I'm going to keep him like this forever. =) One question. He keeps asking me to remove the belt and stroke him. He says he misses having contact with his penis. And he also promises that he won't cum. Should I do this for him? Maybe as a reward for good behaviour in between his scheduled orgasms?"

- Tammy, Calgary, Alberta, Age 19

This is a great idea for a short term reward, Tammy. My own fiance, Todd, has expressed to me that he so much more appreciates having his penis touched now that its kept under lock and key - even if he isn't allowed to ejaculate. It's also a great opportunity to talk to him about any issues you have. What I normally do is cuff Todd's hands behind him, and have him go down on me until I'm satisfied. When he's finished, I'll remove his chastity device and have him sit next to me (usually on the couch). I'll reach over and slowly and gently start pumping his penis (after warning him that he'd better not ejaculate). At this point, he's truly like putty in your hands. :-) Talk to him about issues. Ask him for something. If his responses please you, then pump his a little bit faster, if they don't, slow down. You'll be amazed how wonderfully agreeable he will be. When he starts getting too worked up, I'll let go and let him cool down for awhile, then ask him if he'd like some more. Usually he says yes, and I'll go through another cycle. I limit it to two cycles.

A word of caution, however. Make sure his hands are restrained during these sessions. Once he gets worked up, he'll grab his penis and finish the job no matter what you say.

Have fun!

About the Author: Tanya is a licensed, practicing sex therapist in Ottawa, Ontario, Canada. The opinions expressed in this guide are solely her own and not meant to be taken as professional advice.